In the scriptures it says to, “honour and respect your father and your mother. Do this so that you will have a full life.”
This is perhaps an easy task for those of us who were blessed and fortunate enough to have been raised by parents who gave us a safe and loving home as children, where we felt acknowledged and valued, so that we could enjoy a happy childhood.
But what if you grew up with carers who abused you? Or if you suffered neglect and trauma at their hands? Honouring one’s parents in these cases can perhaps seem like a daunting, if not impossible, task.
In my experience, EFT, or Emotional Freedom Techniques, can provide one way in which you can honour your parents and feel good about yourself at the same time, regardless of your actual childhood experiences.
This is because when I show my clients how to connect with the archetypal energies of their inner, or divine, parents, they find they can understand and come to grips with what happened to them, and eventually even honour them.
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Once you connect with the love, support and messages from your own inner parents, you are automatically aligned with your core, AND an abundance mindset. In this place you are Love - a pure manifestation of infinite universal life force energy.
At this level of your ‘Being’, you are always unbound and unlimited. This is also where your ‘inner millionaire’ resides. By learning how to connect with this, you can develop a mindset for unrestricted abundance that can have you manifest more tangible prosperity than you once imagined.
Perhaps now you can see how honouring your parents can actually help you become rich!
I've found that there are specific positive phrases and sayings that, if repeated while using EFT tapping, accelerate the process of shedding old pain, receiving new awareness and the ability to love.
I’m listing some of these positive statements below, that ‘good enough’ or divine parents or caregivers might say to you, as their beloved child. These words reflect the truth that all babies and children are whole and worthy by virtue of the fact that they exist.
The same can be said for you, as an adult. If you don’t experience this as your current reality, and instead consider yourself as having 'something wrong' with you, then you’ve simply ‘forgotten’ how uniquely special and wonderful you really are.
I invite you to tap on your EFT tapping points as you try repeating these affirmations for yourself. I suggest that you imagine your own inner divine mother and father saying these words to you now as an adult. Do they resonate for you? Do they feel true, good and ‘nourishing’ to your spirit? If not, it's especially important to tap and repeat them!
What would you have loved your own earthly mother and father to have said to you when you were a child? Tap with EFT as you say the words.
Make sure that you acknowledge and say out loud any negative emotions as they may arise, so you can hear what has been inside of your mind all these years. Saying these beliefs will neither hurt you nor make them stay longer. You're simply flushing them out of your system.
Once you have said the unsupportive beliefs and expressed their associated feelings, you can then tap in and receive the life affirming and positive statements below in their place.
What you wish your Divine Mother would have said to you:
Eyebrow: I’m so glad you’re here
Side of the Eye: You can relax and feel ‘at home’ with me
Under Eye: I enjoy who you are
Nose: I support you being who you are
Chin: I see you
Collar Bone: I hear you
Under Arm: You are special to me
Top of Head: I respect you
Eyebrow: Your needs are important to me. You can turn to me for help
Side of Eye: I am always here for you. I’ll make time for you
Under Eye: I’ll keep you safe
Nose: You can rest in me
Chin: You can take refuge in me
Collarbone: I enjoy your company
Under Arm: You brighten my heart
Top of Head: I love you just as you are
What you wish your Divine Father would have said to you:
Eyebrow: I believe in you. You have rich talents and gifts to share
Side of Eye: I’m proud of your achievements
Under Eye: I honour and respect you
Under Nose: I acknowledge your integrity
Chin: I’m here for you
Collarbone: I value and appreciate you.
Under Arm: Unleash yourself now; be uncensored! Be yourself! Just be who you are!
Top of Head: I know you can succeed!
Eyebrow: You are precious to me!
Side of Eye: You are unique and special. There is no-one else quite like you
Under Eye: You are beautiful, capable and strong
Under Nose: I respect and honour your sexuality. It’s safe to express your sexuality
Chin: I will protect you, you are safe with me
Collarbone: You can lean on me. I’m here for you now and I’ll always be here for you
Under Arm: I love to spend time with you. You are fun to be with
Top of Head: I love you just as you are
In my experience, these statements help to remind you of your true brilliance and unlimited capacity for joy and success. If you continue to feel upset or uncomfortable in any way, remember to breathe and keep tapping – IT’S ONLY ENERGY!
Joe Peace is an EFT International Accredited Certified EFT Master Trainer, NQT, and Advanced Practitioner. She is also a Licenced Acupuncturist, Chinese Massage therapist and former Registered Nurse and Soil Scientist. She teaches a mix of cutting-edge Energy Medicine tools, and business ‘know-how’ to women entrepreneurs. She lives in Bournemouth, Dorset, UK. Visit Jo at www.peaceEFT.com
From the EFTfree Archives, which are now a part of EFT International .
Originally published on Sep 7, 2013.