It’s easy to be thankful when life is going our way. When all of our needs are being met, we easily slip into gratitude mode. When the paychecks are coming, when there is satisfaction/contentment in relationships and all is moving well, it’s easy to appreciate the whole world. However, many of us know that living in this world can sometimes mean that instead of flow, we encounter the energy of ebb.
When the paychecks aren’t rolling in, but the bills are, when there is discord in our intimate relationships, when the bathroom is flooded, and the car dies; everything seems to be going wrong. One or two things happen and all of a sudden, everything in life is going badly, or so it seems. This is known as visiting “Scare City.”
What is “Scare City?” It’s a place within that we visit all too often. Scare City mode is when we’ve completely disconnected from our source of strength and abundance, our higher power or whatever we choose to call it. We literally become blind to the gifts and blessings we have in front of us and become paralyzed by the perception of overwhelming lack and despair. We get so stuck in Scare City that we can’t find solutions to our problems.
Fortunately for those times when we find ourselves stuck in Scare City, EFT can shift our energy right out of that place. EFT is the best tool for altering our mood and perceptions of the issues and circumstances. With EFT we can make that conscious energetic shift in our attitude and our energy. Energy follows intention. When we get stuck, it seems as though we can’t get out, because we become so focused on the problem that we can’t see the solutions. Our intention or that which we are focused on by default becomes the worry, angst, and fear. All of the available abundance energy is being blocked — while all of our energetic focus is going to the problems.
The universe is an abundant place. The Law of Attraction says that we are attracting what we focus on at any given time. When visiting Scare City, we focus on the lack and attract more of that energy to us. EFT can help us align ourselves in the highest and best way to attract better energy, gain accurate perceptions and discover solutions to problems.
Combining EFT with the practice of gratitude is an effective way of changing our relationship to the problems. Gratitude is something we can both feel and practice. When we are stuck in Scare City, it is both the best time and hardest time to employ the practice of gratitude.
This might sound nauseatingly cheery, or Pollyanna-ish, if you are hanging out in scarcity. However the best thing to do when stuck in Scare City, is to take a step towards the exit. EFT will facilitate that first step. Take a moment to try some tapping.
The following steps and suggested set-up phrases will help balance your energy and prepare you for realignment to receive positive energy. Often it takes small steps, like tapping on acceptance of present circumstances, before you can move into the bigger issues.
1. Tapping on accepting the current circumstances will allow you to come back to your center.
So even though I can’t seem to find one darn thing to be grateful for, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though things look really bleak in my life, I am deeply and profoundly accepting and grateful for my life.
2. As you accept the situation you find yourself in, you also need to forgive yourself for any judgments, negativities, blame or shame you may be holding.
Even though I’m broke and the bills are piling up; I forgive and accept myself for any and all shame and blame I might be holding.
Even though I feel that everything is going wrong in my life, I forgive myself for any part I might play in these perceived failures.
3. As we know, tapping on the specifics of each issue will reveal more layers and blockages.
When there are multiple layers to an issue, of course there will be blockages to solutions. The key is persistence. Once a certain level of acceptance and forgiveness has been achieved, we can move into more specifics that address the problems.
Even though I can’t see a solution to this problem, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
Even though there don’t seem to be any, I am open to solutions to my problems, and I remain deeply accepting and completely open.
4. The final step is the shift into gratitude through tapping.
Once acceptance and forgiveness have released the initial blockages, we can then begin to look at small things to be grateful for.
Even though I can’t think of one damn thing to be grateful for, I am grateful for my morning cup of tea/coffee.
Even though things are seeming hopeless, I am grateful for my pet’s affection.
When we begin to appreciate the small things we have, we are clearing a pathway for energy to flow. When we can release the lack, we open the door for solutions to problems and the energy of abundance. All problems can be turned into blessings if we choose to learn from them, and use EFT to shift our energy and perspective.
Essex Junction, Vermont, US
Originally published on May 29, 2010.