This one was a surprise issue. My partner has a huge plastic bottle into which he has been putting coins for years. It’s about half full. I don’t know how much is in there now, it hasn’t ever been counted yet. I noticed that when we moved in together I took a while before I began adding my “extra coins” to the pot. I obviously had reservations about "his" and "mine." I logically realize this is totally silly because if I asked him for anything, he’d hand it over in a heart-beat if I needed it. I noticed this interesting emotional programming I have regarding trust in relationships.
Recently, my wallet was heavy with too much small change and I wanted to get rid of the excess. I had noticed my partner putting loonies ($1 Canadian coins with a loon on them) and twoonies ($2 Canadian coins) into the pot … as if he didn’t need them to pay for things. I compared my own habit of putting in pennies and nickels.
I’d been listening to a Mike Dooley audio program lately and he talks about acts of faith as a way to tell the universe that you’re ready for something that you don’t presently have. As I put my money into the jar this time, I decided to stretch myself as an act of faith: acting AS IF I don’t need that bit of change in my wallet to pay for things, telling my subconscious that I have more than enough elsewhere – which IS actually the truth. Apparently, however, I have an emotional part of me that DOESN’T believe that. My act of faith would be that I’d throw in my dimes as well. Sounds easy enough...
Well, I would never have imagined there could be so much resistance! I threw all my dimes in, maybe 7 to 10 of them, and I forced myself to throw in a quarter as well. I had three others that I did NOT put in.
Recognizing "Writing on My Walls"
As I sat down after doing that I immediately became aware of an emotion and a bodily sensation telling me that all was not fine. I could feel such sadness welling up and my body was physically tight with fear. Where there is fear, there is no love… and there certainly isn’t any faith. I recognized this as some of the “the writing on my walls” regarding lack of abundance.
Contrary to what I generally do with clients, I didn’t bother with any Setup phrases. Nor did I take the time to check the level of intensity. I did not believe that I had any Psychological Reversal on this issue so I simply began tapping the 8 shortcut points that I most often use: EB, SE, UE, UN, CH, CB, UA and top of head.
[Phrases] This sadness about giving my money away. This sadness about putting my money in the common pot. This tightness in my body about putting my dimes in the pot. Let’s not think about the quarters. A whole quarter!
Feel like it’s no longer mine. Feel like it’s lost to me now and I might need it. What if I need it? I can’t get it back. It feels so sad. Can’t ask for it back.
I don’t know how much is mine. What is my rightful part? I might need it and I won’t have it. Such sadness, such fear, needing the money and not being able to get it back. I had it once but I gave it away. I might need it. Such fear. This sadness.
I stopped when I experienced no more distress and “Aaaaahhh, that felt better!” No more fear, no more sadness, no more tightness. It felt like a 0 out of 10. I decided to test my work by going back and throwing in the other three quarters!! I stood and watched, emotionless, as they fell into the bottle. Okay, I haven’t tried throwing the loonies or twoonies in yet but I know that some day I will and, for the moment, I am celebrating my success at bringing about quite a large shift in perspective about small change and feeling that much lighter and more enlightened.
How many little things like that do we deal with every single day of our lives? They seem so trivial yet how do they limit us? We are often not even consciously aware of them, these seemingly inconsequential thoughts and beliefs, and yet they are stressors running constantly in the background and they have an impact on our emotional and possibly even our physical well-being. What a relief and a change in our lives when we are able to remove them using EFT or any other modality for that matter. Again, all I can say is “Aaaahhhhhh!”
Tap on even the small things!
Follow up about 2 months later: I have since tested the work by throwing in more change which included dimes AND quarters. There was no resistance. Next step: (to paraphrase Dorothy and the gang) “Loonies and Twoonies and Bills! Oh my!”
EFT International Certified EFT Practitioner
Montreal, Quebec, Canada
From the EFTfree Archives, which are now a part of EFT International .
Originally published on December 3, 2011
Gail Mae says
Great article Kelly!