New hot word:
*His bug bear
To be added to “unfairness of it all” and “useless”. This emerged repeatedly during the course of our conversation.
I reminded Arthur of Gary Craig’s “Discovery statement” of:
“The cause of all negative emotion is a disruption in the body’s energy system”.
This negative emotion becomes deeply embedded in a person’s psychological and behavioural persona and psyche and any attempt to change theses established patterns of behaviour and thought, will face some degree of resistance from what Anna-Marie Podma, author of “The Deeper Secret” refers to as the “NO” current aka the unconscious realm. This “No” current is the key saboteur of many change programmes and needs to be neutralised before treatment can commence. It will also ensure that psychological reversal of the negative emotion takes place, thus putting a stop to any interference with further efforts to overcome the problem. However, before proceeding, I informed Arthur that I needed to take an Intensity Rating at this point as I could see that Arthur was getting emotional and felt that it was opportune to take an advantage of Arthur’s in the moment response to the problem. I explained the Intensity Rating procedure to him and asked for a Subjective Unit of Distress (SUD) between zero (lowest) and 10 (highest). He said it was a 7.
I explained the nature and purpose of using the “Basic recipe” in which Arthur will:
Be a participant and not a bystander, in the process
Receptive accountability and responsibility of the emotions emerging in the process.
As Arthur and Sue are a loving and close couple, I decided to also include Sue in the process so that she too could:
Understand Arthur’s perspective of his current predicament.
Understand the range of emotions he was experiencing at the moment.
Be a co-participant in the healing process.
Be emotionally supportive to Arthur in his healing process.
I also explained to Sue that by being a co-participant, she would also benefit herself. The “Borrowing a benefit” concept was explained fully. This made Sue more eager to help in the process as she now had two vested interests in the healing process: her husband’s wellbeing and her own.
THE BASIC RECIPE
- THE SETUP STATEMENT
I explained to Arthur and Sue that there were two parts to the setup statement - The “Even though” part and the affirmation part “I deeply and completely accept myself." Arthur however, felt that it was arrogant to say “I deeply and completely accept myself” and that when I had used it as part of the Imagineering technique, the words were “alien” to him and did not sit well with him.
I asked him to choose an affirmation that suited him better and he wanted to use instead,” I deserve to feel better." Knowing Arthur as the proud man that he is, I thought his choice of affirmation was appropriate to him. I also felt that his affirmation sentence provided him with empowering words, emotions and determination to achieve his healing goal, that is, to feel better so he could enjoy his retirement with Sue and enjoy gardening once more.
Note: It is important that the client chooses words that resonate with him/her as this will not only expedite the healing process but makes the process more personal, empowering and directed by the person themselves.
Hence Arthur decided the following setup statement, while tapping on his Karate Chop (KC).To enhance Arthur’s psychological receptiveness for the desired change via Psychological Reversal, I asked him to repeat the affirmation 3 times while stimulating the Karate Chop. I also asked Sue to repeat the actions and statements used by Arthur and me in the tapping sequence. This she did.
“Even though, I feel this pain in my hands and feel useless, I deserve to feel better."
After repeating the statement 3 times, I asked Arthur to stop, take a deep breath and give me another Intensity Rating. He was embarrassed to tell me that it had risen to an 8. He did not want to let me down but I reassured him that firstly, it was normal for changes in intensity ratings to shift up or down and secondly, the EFT procedure was not about pleasing me but was his own healing programme and what matted most, was his healing. This relaxed him more and he began to enjoy the procedure.
Next, we started the Tapping sequence, using Reminder phrases to describe the problem. Why is this important? The Tapping Sequence is designed to restore an optimal flow of energy through the body’s “meridians” or energy pathways. To treat a problem by stimulating acupoints, the energy disruptions must be mentally activated. Therefore, tapping on the 8 acupoints in this sequence, while thinking of the problem not only balances the energy system in the moment, but it also retrains the body to be able to hold the problematic thought without the energy disruption and thereby neutralising the unwanted negative energy.
By continually tapping, while repeating the Reminder Phrases will, in this case, help Arthur keep himself psychologically attuned to the situation that has triggered his negative emotions of feeling “uselessness” and “unfairness of it all” while the stimulation of the 8 acupoints will help neutralise them in the process. This was explained fully to Arthur and Sue not only to increase their awareness of the healing powers of EFT but also so that they understand the purpose and the importance of the choice of words, the effect of stimulating specific acupoints to remove energy blockages and the neutralisation impact of using affirmations in the process.
EB (Beginning of eyebrow)-“This sharp pain, this uselessness, this unfairness, it is stopping me from enjoying my life presently.
SE (side of eye)-This sharp pain, it unfair!
UE (Under eye)-This sharp pain, it hurts my hands.
UN (Under Nose)-This useless sharp pain, it is not benefitting me at the moment
CH (Chin)-This unfair sharp pain, I want it gone.
CB (collar bone)-This unfair sharp pain, is affecting my health even more.
UA (under Arm) - This useless sharp pain, what good is it doing me.
TH (Top of head) - This sharp painful pain, it’s stopping me from doing the things I enjoy.
I then asked Arthur to take a deep breath and to guess his Intensity rating and he was as surprised as I was when he said it was a 2! However, at this point, I noticed that Arthur was feeling tired and I was concerned for his health. Arthur confirmed that he was tired and I explained that it was one of the side effects of the process but was a positive indication that the energy was beginning to flow. I asked him if he wanted to carry on and he said “yes." However, noticing how tired he was, I decided not to proceed with the full Basic Recipe and omitted the Nine-gamut procedure as I felt it would be too much for him and would only prolong the process. I asked him if the pain in his hands was still “sharp” and he said that it was more of a “pin prick." This showed a reduction of the pain that he had felt as these months and I felt another short-cut tapping sequence “to chase the pain” would not only alleviate the pain but would benefit the couple.
Proceeding straight to a second round of tapping (eliminating the set up statement as it was not necessary), Arthur, Sue and I repeated the following:
EB: This pin prick of a pain, it’s still there.
SE: This pin prick of a pain, it’s still a pain.
UE: This pin prick of a pain, it needs to go completely.
UN: This pin prick of a pain, it still has a hold on me.
CH: This pin prick, it’s holding up my gardening plans.
CB: This pin prick, Go!
UA: This pin prick, is really, really annoying.
TH: This pin prick, hurry up and go!
Again I asked Arthur to pause, take a deep breath and give me an Intensity reading. He said that the pain had gone and to prove it to Sue and me, he began flexing his fingers without grimacing. He was delighted but I could see that Sue was still apprehensive. I asked him if she wanted to share her inner thoughts with me and she said she would later. Obviously she had seen how happy Arthur was, being pain free that she did not want to disappoint his newfound emotional freedom. Arthur was really feeling tired so we decided that we should end the session but should he feel the need to see me or discuss anything in private, I would make myself available. As we were leaving, Sue said she hoped for Arthur’s sake that the pain had really disappeared for good. She said she did not want to see him disappointed if the pain returned. I reassured her that EFT and changes to negative emotions was permanent. However, she could discuss this at length, if she still had any doubts.
A week passed and no word from Arthur or Sue. I decided to pay them a visit. Arthur welcomed me with open arms and was proud to show me his new rose bush in a pot. Sue too was equally pleased and informed me that she has seen her husband suffer a lot and was therefore naturally concerned for his wellbeing.
She also said that after the session, Arthur felt very sleepy and slept quite a bit for two days. However, on the third day, he insisted that Sue drive him to the local garden centre as he wanted to buy a rose bush. Planting the new shrub in a pot, rather than in the ground, meant that Arthur could sit comfortably while tending to his rose bush without exertion. Arthur told me that inspired by EFT, he plans to tap every day until he replaces all of Sue’s plastic plants with real ones! This was Arthur being creative, enjoying his passion once more for gardening albeit with potted plants and visualising his “Palace of Possibilities”. That’s his new goal for the future. As for Sue, her “borrowed benefit” was to be a happier person and enjoy each day for what it is.
In this case study, I have learnt some invaluable lessons.
* To ensure that a client with severe health problems is aware and understands the disclaimer that EFT is not a replacement for on-going medication, treatment and medical advice. The client should, where possible, discuss his/her intention to partake in EFT and receive advice from the GP/consultant.
* To ensure that a client with severe health problems is made aware of not only the benefits but also the possible side effects of EFT.
* Listening to key “hot words” is crucial. So is any shift in emotion or metaphor to describe the situation.
* It is important for the client to choose their own metaphors or emotive words to describe what they are feeling. The more a client resonates with their words, the faster the healing and subsequent empowerment.
* How crucial it is that the client understands all the elements and steps of the tapping procedure so that they can own their emotions, accept responsibility and understand what is happening or likely to happen to their bodies, emotions and behaviour.
* That there is no script or prescribed sequence for EFT. That the tapping sequence is just a suggestion as it is easier to undertake and remember.
* That the entire EFT session is customer focused, customer led (direction) and solution based.
* That it is okay for a practitioner, like me, to be flexible and not to follow the tapping sequence rigidly. The tapping sequence needs to fit the person’s requirements in the moment itself and it is important for the practitioner to be aware of the client’s change in mood, behaviour, emotions and inner strength In this case, I had previously intended to use the full Basic Recipe including the nine-gamut points but seeing Arthur’s exhaustion, made me decide to omit this sequence in favour of the short-cut version after all. What is important is that the means justifies the end and in this case, Arthur achieved his goal and is now pain free and able to enjoy his hobby again.
* Perseverance is key and if one technique does not work, then to try another till the “right fit” is found. Hence it is important for the practitioner to have more than one “EFT tool in the toolkit”.