I want to share some new wording I’ve been getting good results with. It’s really very simple, but it seems to hit the spot with certain clients, possibly neutralizing issues of fairness, justification and righteous indignation.
As we tap through a negative emotion, anger for example, we’ll use something very basic for the reminder phrase: “This anger…..this anger……this anger….” while tapping through the points. Just when the client’s energy seems to be shifting, I’ll add in the following words:
I have every right to feel this anger
What happened to me/what they did was not okay
I have every right to feel even more anger than I’m feeling
And I have every right to stop feeling this anger and to let it go
This simple phrasing often allows for a nice, quick release accompanied by a sigh. Sometimes I’ll add Gary’s wonderful line “because holding on to this is costing me dearly." I may even put in the bit about how holding on to anger is like drinking poison and hoping the person you’re angry at gets sick!
Keep up the great work!
Rob Nelson
Santa Rosa, California, US
www.tappingthematrix.com
From the EFTfree Archives, which are now a part of EFT International .
Originally published on April 27, 2010.
Natalie Hill says
Great wording, Rob! I’ll start using it with my clients and with my own tapping.
Natalie