As explained in Part 1, “Amy” had experienced a lot of loss in her young life (she is in her mid-twenties). She has been recovering from bouts of depression that have been severe at times, yet thanks to EFT and other good mental health support, she is doing much better.
Anniversaries are especially hard for Amy. Every year, she feels sadness on the anniversaries of her losses, as well as on the birthdays of the loved ones who have passed away. These can be triggers for depression. As luck would have it, there is a string of significant dates from early January until early May -- so the first third of the year is always difficult for her.
We had addressed some of the anniversaries over the last few months and had done some tapping, helping her through. In this session (it was in May), Amy reported that she had finally reached the end of the string of anniversaries. She had hoped to feel better, but actually she was physically under the weather. “I feel terrible,” she said. Her doctor thought it was allergy-induced asthma. “For three weeks, I’ve hardly been able to breathe. I have to use a nebulizer a couple of times a day and a really strong inhaler. I’ve already been through a course of steroids but it’s not getting better.” Her doctor was stumped and was sending her to an asthma specialist. “I have an appointment next week.”
What Her Body Was Expressing
We decided to tap for her physical symptoms. I asked her to describe how it felt and then I used her words:
Even though I can’t breathe and my lungs feel like a bomb about to go off... like a balloon about to pop... I love and accept myself anyway...
Can’t breathe... lungs like a bomb about to go off... can’t breathe... lungs like a balloon about to pop...
She had only slight relief from that round of tapping. She said her lungs were really achy and she still couldn’t get much of a breath. I was struck by her images, that her lungs felt “full to bursting.” I’ve heard that we often carry grief in the lungs. So I mentioned this to her and asked if we could use that language in a round of tapping -- she agreed to try it.
Even though my lungs are achy and I can’t get a deep breath, I love and accept my lungs... they’ve had a hard time these last few months...
Even though my lungs feel so tight and full to bursting, maybe they’re full of grief... all those anniversaries one after the other... all those losses... I love and accept myself...
Even though my lungs are achy, and maybe they’re full to bursting with grief, I love and accept my lungs... I acknowledge what a hard time this is for them... full of grief...”
All this grief in my lungs... full to bursting... all these losses... lungs full of grief... this string of anniversaries... hard for my lungs... lungs full of grief...
As we finished the round of tapping, Amy had an amazed look on her face -- and I watched as she took an enormous full deep breath! “That’s the first deep breath I’ve taken in weeks!” she said. She was so excited to feel her body respond and begin releasing the painful pressure in her lungs.
During the rest of the session, we made a timeline and listed all the sad anniversaries of the last four months. There were eight of them, really a lot when you put them together. We talked about what these dates meant to her and tapped for the details. One in particular carried special significance this time -- it was the anniversary of a cousin’s suicide which, she said, “now seems symbolic of when I had started to decline and had to be put on more meds.”
As we talked and tapped, her breathing continued improving and she was delighted by that. We ended by tapping for how this whole time of year is “hard for my spirit.” It seemed only right to acknowledge the body in that tapping as well.
Even though these last four months have been hard for my spirit... and hard for my body... hard for my lungs... I love and accept myself with kindness and compassion...
Amy left feeling immensely better. She could breathe again!
The next day, I received this delightful email from her:
I just had to tell you, I have not taken my inhaler OR nebulizer AT ALL since I saw you yesterday!!! For reference, I had been taking the inhaler at least 2-3 times a day, consistently, for about two weeks. And that's in addition to the energy in my body doing a complete 180. You (ok, ok; WE) fixed me!!! 🙂
As always, thank you so much for everything you do!
Several weeks later, Amy reported that in the days after our session, her lungs had completely cleared up. Her breathing was so much better that she cancelled the appointment with the asthma specialist. The medical mystery of her so-called allergy-induced asthma had been solved. I wonder if grief-induced asthma will ever become a diagnosis?
Betty Moore-Hafter is an EFT International Accredited Certified EFT Trainer of Trainers and Advanced Practitioneroffering EFT Level 1-2 and Level 3 Trainings several times a year as well as mentoring for practitioner candidates. She offers EFT sessions by phone and by Skype, as well as in person at her Burlington, Vermont office. Find out more at www.CreativeEFT.com. She also offers a new Mentoring and Certification program at www.EmotionalFreedomMastery.com.
From the EFTfree Archives, which are now a part of EFT International International.
Originally published on Jun 29, 2013.