During the last month we thought we were losing our beloved Golden Retriever, Dharma, who turns 13 today! Disc issues, parasites, pancreatitis, a thyroid issue, high bacteria counts, and a lump were all diagnosed. It just seemed to get worse and worse. The meds the vet prescribed caused her to lose her appetite, her energy, 5.5 kilos and - seemingly - her will to live.
We fed her, (gently with a syringe), we encouraged her, we went back and forth to the vet and we tapped. We tapped on her symptoms. Then we tapped on what we thought she might have been feeling. And we tapped on our own grief and concern. Several times she rallied, only to again make us wonder if it was time to do the ultimate kindness. We didn’t know what else to do, except to keep on keeping on, attempting to entice her with home made soups and tasty treats. While continuing to tap.
While she will never regain her puppyhood, and at 13 her days are numbered, I am happy to report that Dharma is now eating voluntarily. She has gained some weight and strength back AND is swimming daily at the pool of our Golden loving neighbours. Her eyes have lost their vacant look, she is engaged with us, rolling in the grass, chasing her ball and wagging her tail again. Today, as a birthday treat, we took her to a calm beach, where she swam and chased her ball.
Dogs, Cats and Humans
I am reminded of the dogs and cats in my life who had health issues. Francois, the poodle, contracted diabetes after experiencing the same stress I did as a kid in an unhealthy, unhappy home.
During a 5 year toxic relationship, (both of us had unresolved mother issues that we took out on each other), my Airedale friend Pax got terminal cancer. I remember the two sibling felines we adopted. Initially they were great friends, however, living with the ‘Bickersons’, resulted in similar behaviour between the feline sisters. They became so antagonistic that they couldn’t be in the house at the same time.
Post that unhappy relationship I became involved with an obsessive, addicted stalker. Perhaps as a result, my next dog Jeeves, a beautiful White Shepherd, got such aggressive cancer that the tumour visibly grew overnight. He was dead before his first birthday. Meanwhile, Ti Loup, a northern mixed breed, developed an autoimmune disorder and was dead by age 5. Then Skaha, a Lab/Shepherd/Newfie had dreadful allergies.
I feared I had horrible Karma. I now understand that I was wounded, and my pets took on some of my ongoing stress to the detriment of their health.
Eli's Irritating Itch!
At my invitation, a new client brought her elderly, exceedingly itchy dog in when she came to a tapping session in my office.
After learning about many of the traumatic events in her life, I asked the woman if she would like to work on the recent illness and death of another beloved canine. She did and I asked if she would accept an antihistamine, (non-drowsy), for her dog, Eli. She agreed and we started to tap. On her anger towards the vet, on herself, and on her boy dog whose rough horseplay may have originated the problems of her now diseased girl dog.
ALMOST IMMEDIATELY (far faster than one would expect a dog to react to a drug), Eli lay down and relaxed. We tapped on grief and forgiveness for all concerned.
I also talked about my personal experiences with my dogs who were equally sensitive to their human’s emotional state. I have come to understand that they had taken on my then unprocessed emotions that I suspect contributed to their premature deaths.
At the end of the session the owner, was feeling considerably less angry and sad and the dog was lying quietly by her side.
The next morning she sent me a message to let me know that her dog had
Several months later I heard from her again, reporting that
Tia, the Digging Doberman
A friend had broken her foot and so her already highly strung Doby, Tia, wasn't getting her usual exercise. When we arrived for a visit the dog had dug a 6 inch trench around a tree, caused by circling around and around the tree, while barking incessantly. It almost drove me crazy so I asked permission to tap for the Doby. A few minutes later the dog stopped pacing, stopped barking and came to lie down peacefully beside her human. What a relief for us all!
We underestimate how sensitive pets are
If your dog or cat, horse or bunny is acting up, you may want to do some tapping on whatever is bothering you. Whether in the present, or lingering from the past. If they are sick, consider doing some surrogate tapping on their symptoms, as well as how you are feeling about their illness. After I discovered tapping and began letting go of past traumas, my last cat Jaki, lived to 18.
Help is available for you and your 4 legged friends!
If you would like assistance to identify and release the possible emotional connections between your own stress and your critter’s health and happiness, I would be honoured to support you AND your pets during tapping sessions, either online or in person. If in the neighbourhood, dogs and cats are welcome to attend and house calls can be arranged.
Contact me today at firstname.lastname@example.org to make a date.
Alice is an Accredited Practitioner. She has been tapping for about 14 years. Constantly learning new ways to help empower others is one of her great joys. She specializes in helping women whose mothers were/are Narcissists, (or otherwise emotionally ill), to learn how to set and maintain healthy boundaries. She also welcomes clients, (whether two legged or four legged), and has experience with a wide range of issues including abuse, fears and phobias.