I often find that using spontaneous images that arise for some clients during a round of tapping, furthers the healing process. This example was such a powerful image that came through after several rounds of tapping and several layers of fears being revealed. It was a true breakthrough for this person.
In the beginning of our session we worked on tapping on fears of loss.
Even though I have these huge fears, they’re big as a house! Fears of not being able to make a living, of losing my children’s love, of not being good enough, of not being in a relationship, of not being lovable… still I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
After doing a couple of rounds of this, my client said that one of the things coming up for her was that she is very resistant to helping herself. In sessions, she is really present and open, but at home, by herself, she just resists doing any healing work for herself. So we tapped on that issue.
Even though I am so resistant to this, I don’t believe this works, I’m not worthy, I’m just saying these words because Gwendolyn wants me to, but still I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
This round led to an even deeper level under these emotional layers. It became evident that she needed to discover these layers for herself. Tapping on the resistance piece led to an intense level of self-hatred, which of course, we tapped on.
Even though I am so hard on myself, I really hate myself, and I don’t believe these words-I deeply and completely accept and love myself- I’ll say them because I would like this to change.
After this round she visibly calmed down and we began to talk and tap again on the same statement. She then commented in the tapping that she was creating this craziness around her. We incorporated that into the statement.
Even though I really hate myself and I am creating this craziness around me that is whirling faster and faster around me, I still deeply and completely forgive, love and accept myself.
Upon completing this round I used the visualization of my client being the eye of a hurricane. She said she could see it (the hurricane ) as coming from her, being connected to her. Once again from the tapping, she experienced a calmness from not pushing herself to be "fixed" and not being angry and heaping more and more pressure upon herself.
The discovery was about acknowledging and accepting all of her feelings, just being in the center and observing herself. That gave her the new opportunity to look at her emotions in a different way, as the observer, so that she can take a step away from her drama to make better choices. We decided that her assignment this week is to be the eye of the storm, observing, taking measurements, and just being without the pressure or the sabotage of not being able to fix it. This seemed to highlight the value of being present with her feelings and being at the center while still having the storm blowing around her. This illustrated a huge shift for her in her relationship to her own emotions.
This session affirmed for both of us that the need for just being, not doing or fixing is a critical part of the healing process.
Gwendolyn Evans
Essex Junction, Vermont, US
www.lovingself.net
Originally published on April 14, 2010.
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