Truth: Sometimes we struggle. That's just true for all of us. And nowhere more, perhaps, than with letting go. Both the allowing and the aftermath. It can be letting go of things that felt 'normal' or precious to us for years. It might be a relationship - even one that you know has been destructive. Or even the end of life transition of someone seminal in your life.
Thought: Sometimes I ponder how little we seem to know about this letting go stuff. And the profound grief and sadness from the all the meaning-making, that so often isn't even ours.
Possibility: A better understanding of this whole letting go-ness, the inevitable end of things, and the long goodbye of losing our loved ones has a lot to do with exploring our childhood conditioning and expectations.. Exploring how we're SUPPOSED to feel, and what others expect of us... or might think of us - can both reveal and liberate. And Tapping is the best tool I've found for finding clarity without overwhelm.
Exploration: From the purposeful global Tapping of 'I really don't know how to deal with this or what to do'...all the way to the clarity so richly provided by our Tapping explorations that show us where it's attached, how we learned that, and even who or what taught us this point of view. Sitting with the honest truth, patient Tapping, and listening with the ears of the heart is the true north compass to navigating our inevitable losses.
Truth: No matter how old we are, there's still more to do, to learn, to understand, and yes, to pass along. Those we're raising or modeling how to navigate the world for...are busily absorbing the conditioning we're creating, whether it's conscious or not. Whether it's ours ...or not. So it occurs to me that having more conversations like this, with more folks like you, might be a way to foster the idea of #Better. Better for us. Better for those around us. Better for our children and those that follow, them. And creating a long line of better navigators of this thing called Life...and inevitably, Loss.
Thought: Teaching Tapping to the littles who learn from us is an urgent gift we carry for them. Seeing the Tapping opportunities in everyday things, (whether of a losing game or a pet rabbit or their first love), and being able to age-appropriately language our own learned wisdom about loss and letting go is a foundational life skill for navigating the world.
Possibility: If others (tall or small) see us sitting with our truth, Tapping, to find our way to better navigate life's ups, downs and losses, the implicit message is casually yet powerfully sent. Tapping helps us get through the rough stuff.
Exploration: Since the Human experience is relentless with opportunities to experience Loss, to find our way through letting go, to move through the entire spectrum of disappointment and surprise and wounded ache, and the stories we tell ourselves about all that....we need to keep exploring the meaning we make and the meaning we held before that.
You're invited to continue exploring this topic IN community with us, from my other job - creator and community maker. We call it Spring Energy Event. This year we're exploring both HomeComing ...and Leaving. End of life doula and practitioner RoseAnn Simeone will lead that topic. And 12 gifted practitioners' offer personal conversations of experience, learned life wisdom and the tools they used to navigate through.. Hope you'll find your way to join us. (It's all on the EFTi events page.)
In the meantime, let's Tap together on how we learned what we learned about Loss, and how that meaning might be ours....or not. Ready when you are,
Jondi is an Accredited, Certified Advanced Practitioner, Master Trainer & Trainer of Trainers, with a private practice in NYC, USA. Her motto is FEEL BETTER FAST, which she happily teaches in professional training, mentoring and private client work. A member of the EFTI Training Board and member of the ACEP Humanitarian Committee, an original member of the EFT Guild and the founder of the Spring Energy Event/TapFest gathering, she's a natural leader in community-making and group facilitation.
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Peggy Mangan says
Thank you, Jondi. In nursing school, I learned about death and dying; I thought I knew everything about the topic. But when I am faced with a new loss, I feel helpless. The pain and emotions around each person we lose are brand new and intimate. Tapping provides a place in which we can find comfort and clarity.
Jondi Whitis says
I am so glad it is helpful to you. And yes, Life keeps giving us opportunities to learn, practice and handle #better, doesn’t it? I might ask if you could gently remind yourself that you have experienced great losses before, and Tap with that, first. Maybe next you could ask for clarity in your Tapping – what about this is different? How does this one hit me so differently? What might I learn about this particular loss, after all the others I have experienced? How might I help myself feel more grounded, safe, and able to process this grief, vs holding on to it? That’s surely an exploration worth having in our own self-care Tapping, I think. Godspeed in your explorations, Peggy. Kindness always – Jondi