EFT is delightful in it’s simplicity. Unfortunately some problems are complex and resistant to change. In a world full of tapping scripts and tap-along videos this article explores the roots of more difficult problems and how they need much more than a tapping script can give them.
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Can Attachment Theory Explain All Our Relationships?
“Secure adults tend to value attachment relationships and are able to describe experiences coherently, whether negative (e.g., parental rejection or over-involvement) or positive, says Main. Dismissing adults tend either to devalue the importance of attachment relationships or to idealize their parents without being able to illustrate their positive evaluations with concrete events demonstrating secure interaction. Preoccupied adults are still very much involved and preoccupied with their past attachment experiences and are therefore not able to describe them coherently. Dismissing and preoccupied adults are both considered insecure.”
Linked ArticleThe Teenager, the Adult, and the Crone
“We tapped on my feelings of hurt and anger and powerlessness. And suddenly I had an image (from what Betty refers to as the ‘inner theater’ of the imagination) of myself standing in a hole…”
Read MoreThe Pain of “Not Belonging”
“The feeling of not belonging is often mixed with other emotions, like loneliness, deep sadness, feeling different, ‘what’s wrong with me,’ and abandonment and rejection. As we know, it is a basic need for children to belong, to have a safe place, to be at least validated if not cherished.”
Read MoreEmergency Tapping for a Distressed Inner Child
“When I called at the appointed time, Christine was in tears. She apologized, but I told her it was actually a good thing that she was so in touch with her painful feelings at a time when we could talk… Christine recognized that it was her own inner child that was the source of her intense feelings…”
Read MorePanic Attacks and Agoraphobia: EFT to the Rescue
“Melanie: ‘It is about what might come up when I am there. There is this fear: Anything can happen in this busy place, and I have no influence…’ “
Read MoreEFT Clears the Emotional Pain Caused by a Distorted Self-Image
“When we have this distorted image of our bodies, we are in bondage to our fears and we feel that at some level, there is something wrong with us, we are not good enough as we are. As a result, we build a prison that keep us stuck and it robs us of the courage to go after our dreams.”
Read MoreHow Violin Lessons Led To Profound Healing
“Sylvia surprised me by announcing that she had “fired” [her violin] teacher! She felt empowered and delighted that she had broken her own rule of “you have to take it, stick with it, don’t be a quitter.” She could reject those judgments and honor her feelings and needs…How beautiful to see her delightful child self coming through in her new freedom to play the violin for enjoyment, free of judgment, free of fear!”
Read MoreBeing Specific Leads to EFT Breakthrough
“At one point, when talking about what the announcement of the divorce had provoked in my mind at the time, I instantly said: “The feeling that it would never be the same ever again”, and tears started flowing. We had to stop tapping. All day long, every time I would think of this key sentence, tears would roll down my checks.”
Read MoreCompassionate EFT: Working with Extreme Anxiety Symptoms
“What extreme condition (heavy OCD or anxiety or dissociation) sufferers need in the beginning is you helping them to work along with their symptoms (instead of fighting them) by being able to see the symptoms having a valid and positive function, and by allowing the appreciation and validation for this to develop in them, as well. “
Read MoreWhats Love Got To Do With It? How Body Image, Weight and Self Love Connect
“I think so often when we are ‘stuck’ with a negative belief process or trauma, what keeps it so locked in place is our lack of acceptance and love. When we shine the light of love and kindness through acceptance on an issue, it is like the sun burning off the clouds…”
Read More“The Bottle Story” – Healing a Core Issue
“We talked and tapped with regard to what the little girl needed: someone to pay attention to her feelings, to validate what she felt, to take her seriously, and to understand her. It wasn’t even so much that the little girl needed the bottle — she needed empathy and understanding for her feelings.”
Read MoreIdentity Beliefs, Identity Relief – “I Am A Failure”
“During one of our sessions a client said, in passing, ‘I am a failure.’ I am always on the look out for people’s identity beliefs which often start with ‘I am’ … I only use the words that the client gives me to tap on, no clever reframing is required – just respect for the client’s experience and tapping to take care of the emotion…”
Read More“They’re Just Stupid Boys” – An Inner Child Healing Story
“Apparently our work together on the title alone had completely cleared the trauma. I realized that the title she had chosen was the crescendo of the event. That might not always be a good idea, but in this case, it worked wonders. Those nasty words, which had hurt her so much as a little child, had been completely neutralized and she could see the whole thing clearly and not take it personally anymore….”
Read MoreRecovering from CSA (Childhood Sexual Abuse)
“Surprisingly his intensity went down pretty fast after tapping on the guilt. Somehow the guilt was holding that abuse in place and after the guilt was gone, the abuse too lost its significance. It was, as if a heavy load had been lifted off his shoulders…”
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